I’m noticing something that happens to a lot of my coaching clients. And to me. We’re good at setting goals, lofty or small. We can dream big. But then, afterward, we tend to forget the fact that we did the amazing thing we set out to do. Or we remember, but we no longer think it’s a big deal.
I spend a good portion of my coaching sessions saying, “Wait. Hold the phone. You did that? You did that totally incredibly challenging thing that you couldn’t even have dreamed of doing six weeks ago? HOW FREAKING AMAZING ARE YOU?!?!?!”
Next, my client might realize that, oh yes, WOW. She’s incredible, and she totally did that huge thing. Or she might feel kind of embarrassed about this possibility that I’ve opened up, the possibility of feeling proud. Or she might demur, and mumble that it wasn’t really that great.
I catch myself doing the exact same thing. Exact. So today I’ve decided to create a space for us to come together and practice recognizing ourselves. This, right here, is about sharing. Creating energy around actions, both big and small. There is nothing that’s too small to share and be proud of here. There is nothing that’s too large and glitzy for this venue.
Let us try this, shall we? I’ll go first.
- This month, I received some incredibly fantastic praise from a couple of my coaching clients. I felt radiantly happy to hear them say that our sessions are resulting in meaningful changes in their lives.
- I felt proud because I had a communication breakdown, and I was able to lovingly work through it, even though it felt really difficult.
- I went to a dance class last week, and it was one of the most fun experiences I’ve ever had. I was able to dance without caring whether I was good or not, and it was such a complete and total blast. The whole experience was much different than most other dance class experiences I’ve had in my life.
- I tried a new photo technique with a client, and it came out very close to how I had imagined. Plus, I know a few things to change for next time that will hopefully help it to come out even better.
- On a whim, I had the idea to bring my nubby, green socks to work for when I’m sitting at my desk writing for long spans. My feet are very happy about this.
Now it’s your turn to join me. I’ll jump up and down for you, and sprinkle rainbow enthusiasm dust all around. Promise.
Comments: Sharing our proudness is crazy difficult. That’s why it happens so rarely. Here’s how we do it: We share an accomplishment or an excitement. (We don’t have to get specific, or share any details we’re uncomfortable sharing.) This is also a very special space, because we don’t have to qualify our achievements. We don’t have to say why we’re excited about something (though we can if we want to). Also, you can let us know if you’d like us to keep our excitements about your achievements to ourselves. Otherwise, we’ll respond with nothing but positive showers of affection, so your achievements may continue to grow and flourish.