Comments on: how to support yourself through big transitions

By: Link Love (19/06/2012) « Becky's Kaleidoscope

Link Love (19/06/2012) « Becky's Kaleidoscope — Tue, 19 Jun 2012 14:53:25 +0000

[...] “While transitions might never be as simple or effortless as we’d like them to be, we can at least love ourselves through them by being attentive, mindful and intentional. And as we practice transition in its many forms, maybe, sometimes, we’ll find ease in the midst of it all.” How to support yourself through big transitions – effervescence [...]

By: Kylie

Kylie — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 20:49:58 +0000

Karen: You’re so welcome! I’m really glad it hit on something for some folks. We deserve time and space and permission to be in transition.

Mel: That’s the thing, though: you DO remember, once something reminds you, to get in the bath. Which is a win right there. Downton Abbey; heck yeah!

Louise: Good point about the layer of protection! I s’pose we need to give ourselves protection that’s sufficient so we don’t need to remedially protect in hurtful ways.

Ben: So important! And I’m cheering for you for all of it!

Caitlin: It is SO totally awesome! I am entirely in favor of congratulating our past selves for transitions well (or not so well) done.

Susan: You are so welcome. And this is me telling you to go ahead and be affected.

Clare: I’m pleased as punch to hear you’re in the bath! I’m entirely convinced that you’ll be more successful in getting your stuff done after a bath break, anyway. Thank YOU.

By: Clare

Clare — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 15:08:21 +0000

It was point #1 that really got me! I am going through some huge life, personal and work transitions at the moment and I just, kind of, forgot. I was (and am) so busy managing, plotting, planning and wishing to be ‘further along’ that I totally ignored the transition stage. I denied that there even was a transition stage. Sounds dumb, I know, but very real for me.

Thanks for the very timely reminder. Because of you, I’ll be reading in the bath tonight not working until the wee hours!

Much thanks from Ireland,
Clare

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 16:51:29 +0000

Loved absolutely every word of this piece. I’m REALLy bad at realizing that life changes have a cost to them. I’m always complaining that I don’t have enough energy — but I’ve been through so many life changes in the past few years.

Thank you for helping me let myself off the hook, trying to be so unaffected by the big things happening in my life.

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 21:34:41 +0000

Wow, Kylie. This is great – I loved that you talked about this particular subject and about how we often don’t give our transitions or us a lot of credit in the process. I’ve done that countless times over my life (and through massive steps in my life that took every once of energy) and now am in process of going back, thinking about them, and saying, hey that was pretty awesome that I made that transition. You write beautifully – keep it up and thank you!!

By: Ben

Ben — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 20:14:00 +0000

I’m finding myself in the middle of a transition right now. I always forget how important even the smallest accomplishment is during this time.

By: Louise

Louise — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 19:17:58 +0000

SO timely and lovely. I am watching 17 kiddos gear up for a transition, and transitioning myself. It's exhausting and also kind of magical when I can get distance from it. It brings out lots of different things in people, and I have to remember that a great deal of it seems to be a layer of protection. I'm going to pick a fight with my best friend because he's moving and I'm pissed and scared. or I am going to rush through my writing project because I'm not actually sure I'm ready for 3rd grade. Or, you know, more grown up ways... sort of.

By: Mel

Mel — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 16:17:56 +0000

This is so timely for me. Especially your first and second points. Sometimes I do this so well – and I feel SO good that I forget I’m in any transition at all – Then suddenly I’m superhuman, quickly resulting in the packed schedule & no recovery space; and then it all goes to shit.

And then I have some good reminders like this one; I pick myself up, put myself to bed (or in the bath, with Downton Abbey) and try again! Thank you Kylie, wishing you loads of space and ease and warm fuzzies through your transitions.

By: Square-Peg Karen

Square-Peg Karen — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 15:55:01 +0000

Oooh, Kylie – I think you really hit it here: “It’s easy to downplay the bigness of life changes and pretend they don’t matter or aren’t hard” – seems like our culture pushes us to race through, ignore, etc…

LOVE what you’ve shared here, thank you!